This post could also be titled “stupid things I said before I actually knew what I was talking about.”
Since it’s still close to Mother’s Day, I thought I’d reflect upon some of the things I expected of myself and my mothering BEFORE I became a mom. Really, I had such high expectations. Unfortunately, I also had no clue. So here goes…
I remember believing that I would never…
- take my kids out in public with runny noses or food on their faces.
- let my kids leave the house in their PJs.
- let my kids watch more than 1 hour of TV a day.
- scream at my kids like a crazy woman.
- let my kids manipulate me into buying them candy.
- let my kids have candy right before dinner.
- bribe my kids with candy.
- let my kids have a temper tantrum in public (or bribe them to stop).
I really knew nothing about being a parent before my tiny first baby came into my life. It’s easy to say what you’d do in a particular situation when it’s never happened to you! But the fact is, mothering is way harder than I ever thought. If you guessed that all of the items on the list above actually have happened, you’d be right.
I still have a few expectations for the future of my kids and my parenting. I think I’ve learned, however, to expect that in a lot of ways these expectations are going to change as we go. I’ll have more information then. I’ll have more perspective. I’ll have a better sense of what really matters at that point in my kids’ lives.
So here are a few of my current expectations (notice how I’ve rephrased them…)
I don’t think I will –
- get my kids cell phones.
- let them have a TV in their bedrooms.
- let them date until they’re 16.
Check back with me in 10 years and see how we’re doing! Who knows, I might add these to the “stupid things I said when I didn’t have a clue” list.
What’s on your list??
(Oh, and by the way, I sincerely apologize to anyone – mostly my sisters – if I ever uttered in their presence one of my “I never”s in a slightly condescending manner in my pre-kid days. Live and learn, you know??)