Being a mom is difficult, isn’t it? This was another tough morning and I’m not sure I handled it very well. Lyndsay woke up on the wrong side of the bed, as they say. Sometimes I wonder if her bed HAS a right side! =)
Anyways, it was a struggle to get her ready for school – first off she didn’t “like” anything we had to eat (it’s ok other days, but not today), then she didn’t have the “right” shirt for school but didn’t want to pick one out herself, then Daddy left and she hadn’t said the words “goodbye” to him (she HAD talked to him before he left). All this – an hour and 20 minutes – through whining, arguing, and at times crying (her, not me!)
My patience and gentleness lasted through the first 5 minutes or so. Then I reacted more strongly (I find my self-talk telling me that she’s acting ridiculous and she needs some discipline – time outs / threatened loss of priveleges). So that’s how I acted. I wonder if the misbehavior on her part would have stopped sooner if I’d stayed patient longer. Who knows?
Anyone else out there struggle with impatience, lack of gentleness, second-guessing yourself? Do you just keep on, like myself, praying that you’ll do better next time? Do you have any other techniques you use to help stretch your patience and gentleness even when you don’t feel like it?