A Different Perspective

July 23, 2008 at 10:51 am (Faith, Scripture) (, )

I picked up C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters at the library a couple of weeks ago.  I’ve been wanting to read it for a while and finally got around to it.  If you haven’t read it, you need to.  Soon.

It’s fiction – a collection of “letters” from one demon to another, discussing how best to keep people from God.  It offers such a different perspective on sin that I highly recommend it.  You will think differently after you’ve read it.  It’s not the easiest book to read because of the formal language, but it’s worth the effort. 

Here are some quotes from the book that got me thinking.  Remember that “the Enemy” in these quotes is God:

On humor:  “If prolonged, the habit of Flippancy builds up around a man the finest armour-plating against the Enemy that I know, and it is quite free from the dangers inherent in the other sources of laughter.  It is a thousand miles away from joy:  it deadens, instead of sharpening, the intellect; and it excites no affection between those who practice it…”

On sin itself:  “You will say that these are very small sins;  and doubtless, like all young tempters, you are anxious to be able to report spectacular wickedness.  But do remember, the only thing that matters is the extent to which you separate the man from the Enemy.  It does not matter how small the sins are provided that their cumulative effect is to edge the man away from the Light and out into the Nothing.  Murder is no better than cards if cards can do the trick.  Indeed the safest road to Hell is the gradual one – the gentle slope, soft underfoot, without sudden turnings, without milestones, without signposts…”

On faith in action:  “Let him do anything but act.  No amount of piety in his imagination and affections will harm us if we can keep it out of his will.  As one of the humans has said, active habits are strengthened by repetition but passive ones are weakened.  The more often he feels without acting, the less he will be able ever to act, and, in the long run, the less he will be able to feel…”

On pride:  “Your patient has become humble; have you drawn his attention to the fact?  All virtues are less formidable to us once the man is aware that he has them, but this is specially true of humility.  Catch him at the moment when he is really poor in spirit and smuggle into his mind the gratifying reflection, “By jove!  I’m being humble”, and almost immediately pride – pride at his own humility – will appear.”

and “The Enemy will also try to render real in the patient’s mind a doctrine which they all profess but find it difficult to bring home to their feelings – the doctrine that they did not create themselves, that their talents were given them, and that they might as well be proud of the colour of their hair.  But always and by all methods the Enemy’s aim will be to get the patient’s mind off such questions, and your will be to fix it on them. ”

And last but not least, on how we spend our thoughts, gifts and energies: “…we want a man hag-ridden by the Future – haunted by visions of an imminent heaven or hell upon earth – ready to break the Enemy’s commands in the present if by so doing we make him think he can attain the one or avert the other – dependent for his faith on the success or failure of schemes whose end he will not live to see.  We want a whole race perpetually in pursuit of the rainbow’s end, never honest, nor kind, nor happy now, but always using as mere fuel wherewith to heap the altar of the future every real gift which is offered them in the Present.”

There is so much more… but you’ll need to read it yourself!

It all just makes the following two scriptures more concrete in my mind:

Ephesians 6:12

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

1 Peter 5:8

Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

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TTAH Tuesday – Find a MOPS group near you!

July 22, 2008 at 10:51 am (Good Stuff, Mothering, Try-This-At-Home Tuesday) (, )

If you are a mother of preschoolers (infancy up to kindergarten), then this tip is for you.

I haven’t posted much about MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers), but I want to today because it is an awesome lifeline for moms in the early years of mothering.

Becoming a mother changes your life – and that’s an understatement.  Often moms can feel isolated, lonely, confused, and feeling like they don’t have any idea how to raise this sweet little child that has come into their lives.

That’s where MOPS comes in.  MOPS is a place for moms to meet other moms in the same stage of parenting.  A place where you can connect.  A place to find help.  A place simply to be able to eat a snack without having to share or be interrupted by your little one.

Many groups operate differently, but ours incorporates speakers, crafts, food, and time to chat with other moms.  All while your precious children are having fun and being well-cared-for by volunteers from our church.

Sound good? 

Here’s a link to the MOPS International website, where you can learn more about MOPS and you can also search to see if there is a group near you.  I’m praying you find one and that you make a point of attending at least once or twice to try it out.

(P.S. – if you are not used to leaving your child with someone else, please try it out anyways!  Both you AND your child need the experience!  I would suggest not giving up after the first meeting – it can take some time for your child to get used to being away from you.  But stick with it – it’s the first step of “letting go” – which is what ALL of us moms will have to do eventually!)

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In Between

July 20, 2008 at 3:46 pm (Just life) (, )

We have been making weekly trips to the library.  My seven-year-old has been quite the reader this summer.  She has already read three books in the Little House series this summer and she’s working on the fourth.  Each of the past two she’s read in a week’s time (before the next trip to the library).  I’m really proud of her. 

Two weeks ago, her two book choices were “Little House on the Prairie” and a Sesame Street picture book called “No Cookies”.  Interesting choices, I thought. 

My girl is in between.  In between board books and chapter books.  In between wanting mom to hold her and wanting to sit in her own space.  In between Chutes and Ladders and Monopoly.  In between needing my help and resenting my help.  In between Clifford and High School Musical.  In between mom picking out her clothes and picking her clothes out herself. 

In between little-girl and big-girl.  She goes back and forth as if on a teeter-totter. 

It’s a scary place to be – for me, that is.  I feel like we’re on a mountain-top, looking out over the rest of the world and the future.  So far I’ve been able to shelter her (appropriately, I think) from the ugly stuff.  I think it won’t be like this for much longer.  As she takes grows up, she’ll be venturing further and further from us.

My prayer is that I’ve laid the groundwork for what she needs to know as she steps out into the world.  That she knows that God loves her and that her Dad and I love her.  That even if she ventures further from us, she’ll always be in the hands of our loving God.

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The Five Natural Laws of Toddler Physics

July 16, 2008 at 8:43 am (Daily Struggles, Just life) ()

I’ve been researching and experimenting in this area for seven years now.  In some circles that would have at least earned me a Ph.D., right?

Here goes…

  1. Stairs are for climbing.  Over and over again.  Sometimes making mom drop what she’s doing and run.  Hmmm… this is fun.
  2. Buttons are for pushing.  Any buttons will do… TV, VCR, radio, whatever.  I love to see what happens.  More interesting than the actual device is what happens to my brother and sister when they’re watching something and I turn it off.  Hmmm… this is fun.  At this point, we’re just talking about actual buttons.  But just wait, I’m learning real fast about the emotional buttons of the people in my family! 
  3. Drawers, cabinets, and shelves are for emptying.  Who cares about being organized?  Hmmm… this is fun.
  4. Food is mostly for playing, but sometimes for eating.  Dropping, dumping, mushing, and smearing.  Hmmm… this is fun.
  5. I will do amazing things, but only when no one is around, and NEVER when you ask me to.  Hmmm… this is fun.

OK fellow Moms and Dads, feel free to comment with your own!

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TTAH Tuesday – No funny names, please

July 15, 2008 at 9:06 pm (Just life, Try-This-At-Home Tuesday)

OK, it starts as a funny little game for the kids.  Why not name the Ken doll we got from Grandma’s old stash of toys a funny name?  First off, he’s headless.  So he first got named “Headless Ken”.  He also had a musty smell from Grandma’s basement, so then he got dubbed “Stinky Ken”.  The clothes he came with were stinky, so they got thrown away.  Then he got named “Naked Ken”.  No harm there, right?

Fast forward to now.  We have a pool at our new house, and Derek decides he wants to take “Naked Ken” swimming with him.  Sure, why not?

Do your kids ever shorten names to make them funnier, or maybe because they just don’t feel like saying the whole thing?  “Naked Ken” became just plain old “Naked”.

Everything’s fine and dandy until my dear son yells in the pool Sunday afternoon “MOM – can you go get Naked for me??”

Yes, at the top of his lungs.  Lucky me, our NEW neighbors on BOTH sides were out in their pools.  Did they hear or didn’t they – that is the question.  Nothing like making a good first impression.

So my tip for today… no funny names, please.  You never know when it might come back to haunt you.

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I’m here… really I am!

July 13, 2008 at 9:49 pm (Just life)

We have moved.  And we are loving our new home.  It’s hard to believe our long search is over and that we’re actually here!

It has been a crazy two weeks… and now I’m back on the computer.  We had a mix-up with verizon – can’t get DSL here, so now we’re on roadrunner.  That’s one of the reasons why it’s been so long since I’ve been on-line!

I think I’ve exhausted myself nearly every day moving stuff around the house – unpacking boxes and trying to decide where everything should go.  Then changing my mind and moving it somewhere else!  It’s been tiring but fun.

The kids haven’t nearly stopped moving (except when they’re sleeping) since we moved in.  Riding bikes in the driveway, picking raspberries, helping me weed, decorating their rooms, unpacking a bit, playing on the playset, swimming in the pool.  We’ve had a campfire and we’ve seen fireflies.  We love this place! 

We have a huge screened-in porch that looks out into the backyard – it’s perfect for sitting and winding down after the kids go to bed.  And it’ll be perfect for entertaining – look forward to it, my friends!!

Anyways, that’s just a bit of an update.  I’m here and “still kickin’ ” as my dad used to say.  Have a great week!

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